Comments on: Jenny Was A Friend Of MIne http://unclenorman.com/2008/11/10/jenny-was-a-friend-of-mine/ Sat, 19 May 2012 16:53:32 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.2.1 By: JH http://unclenorman.com/2008/11/10/jenny-was-a-friend-of-mine/#comment-2527 JH Thu, 13 Nov 2008 16:57:04 +0000 http://unclenorman.com/2008/11/10/jenny-was-a-friend-of-mine/#comment-2527 I hope you know I was joking that time when I asked you what you had done with her. I hope you know I was joking that time when I asked you what you had done with her.

]]> By: havingmycake http://unclenorman.com/2008/11/10/jenny-was-a-friend-of-mine/#comment-2507 havingmycake Wed, 12 Nov 2008 18:02:44 +0000 http://unclenorman.com/2008/11/10/jenny-was-a-friend-of-mine/#comment-2507 I started to cry as soon as you mentioned Switzerland. Such a sad story but so beautifully told. Jenny sounds like a lovely person but life had dealt her a series of harsh blows. You clearly made the last few months of her life very warm and special, although it must have been particularly difficult for you to deal with the aftermath as her passing would have left another void in your own life without any time to prepare. Thank you for sharing x I started to cry as soon as you mentioned Switzerland. Such a sad story but so beautifully told. Jenny sounds like a lovely person but life had dealt her a series of harsh blows. You clearly made the last few months of her life very warm and special, although it must have been particularly difficult for you to deal with the aftermath as her passing would have left another void in your own life without any time to prepare. Thank you for sharing x

]]> By: Uncle http://unclenorman.com/2008/11/10/jenny-was-a-friend-of-mine/#comment-2502 Uncle Mon, 10 Nov 2008 16:47:44 +0000 http://unclenorman.com/2008/11/10/jenny-was-a-friend-of-mine/#comment-2502 Dl - so sorry to hear about your friends and children. It does seem unfair and there is nothing one can say to people to make that hurt and pain any better let alone go away. I am not the most religious bloke on the face of the earth, but my mum used say never loose faith. When I asked her if she meant in God or what, she just said "Always believe never ever loose faith and never give up hope" she never specified God or anyone else for that matter it was faith and hope that she said we needed to believe in. I had an RSM who used to say Never give up never surrender. I think they both meant the same thing. All the very best to you and I hope the news gets better for your friends. N Dl - so sorry to hear about your friends and children. It does seem unfair and there is nothing one can say to people to make that hurt and pain any better let alone go away.

I am not the most religious bloke on the face of the earth, but my mum used say never loose faith. When I asked her if she meant in God or what, she just said “Always believe never ever loose faith and never give up hope” she never specified God or anyone else for that matter it was faith and hope that she said we needed to believe in.

I had an RSM who used to say Never give up never surrender. I think they both meant the same thing.

All the very best to you and I hope the news gets better for your friends.

N

]]> By: Uncle http://unclenorman.com/2008/11/10/jenny-was-a-friend-of-mine/#comment-2501 Uncle Mon, 10 Nov 2008 16:42:01 +0000 http://unclenorman.com/2008/11/10/jenny-was-a-friend-of-mine/#comment-2501 I had intended to ad a note to the end of this story just to clear a few things up. Firstly I had no idea what Jenny was up to until the moment the nurse asked the question and then gave her the drink. Secondly I have been asked if I would have helped Jenny had I known quite why she was going and the answer is I just don't know. I can understand why she did what she did but am 99.99% sure I would not do it myself. However I cannot condemn what she did. Thirdly I am not sure where I stand on euthanasia or the assisted suicide thing. On the one hand I wonder at how we being humane by putting animals out of their misery and then let humans suffer to the bitter end. However on the other hand a little voice tells me that if we sanctioned euthanasia it would not be long before it was hijacked and abused. I had a bit of grief from the police - when I got back from Somalia about 6 months later, but to be honest the blokes who had the enquiry really just went through the motions. However the grief her ex husband and kids tried to give was off the scale and bloody funny, but Jenny had accounted for this and had made legal arrangements for me to deal with them for her from beyond the grave. That as they say is another story. I had intended to ad a note to the end of this story just to clear a few things up.

Firstly I had no idea what Jenny was up to until the moment the nurse asked the question and then gave her the drink.

Secondly I have been asked if I would have helped Jenny had I known quite why she was going and the answer is I just don’t know. I can understand why she did what she did but am 99.99% sure I would not do it myself. However I cannot condemn what she did.

Thirdly I am not sure where I stand on euthanasia or the assisted suicide thing.

On the one hand I wonder at how we being humane by putting animals out of their misery and then let humans suffer to the bitter end. However on the other hand a little voice tells me that if we sanctioned euthanasia it would not be long before it was hijacked and abused.

I had a bit of grief from the police - when I got back from Somalia about 6 months later, but to be honest the blokes who had the enquiry really just went through the motions. However the grief her ex husband and kids tried to give was off the scale and bloody funny, but Jenny had accounted for this and had made legal arrangements for me to deal with them for her from beyond the grave.

That as they say is another story.

]]> By: dl http://unclenorman.com/2008/11/10/jenny-was-a-friend-of-mine/#comment-2500 dl Mon, 10 Nov 2008 15:42:40 +0000 http://unclenorman.com/2008/11/10/jenny-was-a-friend-of-mine/#comment-2500 That's so sad and moving, Norman! I do wonder sometimes how it can be that the loveliest of people can be taken away from us. But really I do understand that you're only too familiar with those sorts of feelings. In the last week we've learnt of two separate cases of beautiful youngsters, friends of ours and our children, both critically ill, out of the blue. Seems so completely unfair. Every now and again, we learn of yet another person being investigated by the police for helping someone in Jenny's situation to exercise their choice. And every time I start to see a red mist. I'm not aware of ever hearing the outcome in these cases - which probably means that someone's seen sense and no charges have been brought. I hope you didn't get any strife for helping Jenny to make her arrangements? Best wishes, D. That’s so sad and moving, Norman!

I do wonder sometimes how it can be that the loveliest of people can be taken away from us. But really I do understand that you’re only too familiar with those sorts of feelings.

In the last week we’ve learnt of two separate cases of beautiful youngsters, friends of ours and our children, both critically ill, out of the blue. Seems so completely unfair.

Every now and again, we learn of yet another person being investigated by the police for helping someone in Jenny’s situation to exercise their choice. And every time I start to see a red mist. I’m not aware of ever hearing the outcome in these cases - which probably means that someone’s seen sense and no charges have been brought.

I hope you didn’t get any strife for helping Jenny to make her arrangements?

Best wishes,
D.

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